THE USE OF CONTROL

'no act is completely selfless'

We have people all around us and including ourselves, we know how to get what we want and the degree of control required for this process. However, some people are aware of what is needed and undertake this process with genuine good intentions, which could be something very common to us like, getting help from people like lecturers and tutors for study purposes and then mantaining that contact to control this much needed help so we can get it when we need it most. Now, this seems pretty self explanatory and perhaps we're all wondering why look into something like this and create something out of it? Well, this is because we live in a society where people are now rapidly losing control and as a consequence hastily trying to get this control by undertaking such processes with manipulation. This happens with world leaders, parents, couples, friends and so on and so forth. In short, pretty much everyone! Rather than doing things through respect, people are now using their control to get this respect. Makes no sense and perhaps no logic behind it eh? I have met many people from different faiths, cultures, lifestyles and continents! From this I have seen how similar people are in the way they use control to get what they want. A simple way to explain this is by looking at the way women behave towards their partners. I have sat in libraries minding my own business and have heard young women getting quite flustered about their shaky relationships with their boyfriends. For instance, in a recent encounter, I have heard lines such as 'I just want to know where he is, if I fail this (whilst studying), it's all his fault, etc and these comments were made after saying that they had split up? HMMM? So why the control here? Why does this girl need to know what her EX-BOYFRIEND is doing if they're not together? This kind of behaviour comes down to still being attached and still needing this person due to CONTROL. People need to use control to get some worth and meaning to their lives and yes, it is good to have some control but we must be careful that we don't become 'controlling' and more importantly, don't let others control us! So many people don't realise how they are being controlled. We are all controlled by society but we are also controlled by the people around us namely, people who are close to us. We sometimes see this as a good thing but at times fail to see how much of this control they have taken away from us. We rationalise this by subconsciously convincing ourselves that what they do and say is because they love and care for us which of course is true but not entirely as no act is completely selfless. In some instances, this is ok but in others, it is somewhat quite twisted. I know of people who in the name of love have implied they are acting or doing something due to good pure intentions but this is quite on the contrary. We are in a society that is turning more and more self absorbed and in turn we are knowing less and less about the people around us, their interests, aims, and most important of all, their intentions.